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Runnin' Rebel · 31 May 2012, 11:02 AM

Teach Jocke English, that was funny and not so funny at the same time

wantonebad · 31 May 2012, 11:06 AM

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Originally Posted by JAGERVEGAS

Teach Jocke English, that was funny and not so funny at the same time

Story of my life, was all in jest

Pep04 · 31 May 2012, 11:09 AM

Maybe it's a cultural thing, but I am having a real hard time deciphering how this could possibly offend her.

figbo · 31 May 2012, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Pep04

Maybe it's a cultural thing, but I am having a real hard time deciphering how this could possibly offend her.

Pepo,nice to see you're still around!BTW,stay away from this one...

Pep04 · 31 May 2012, 11:23 AM

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Originally Posted by figbo

Pepo,nice to see you're still around!BTW,stay away from this one...

Thank you Raf. Good seeing you're still gracing us with your wit.

Good advice. I will stay FAR FAR AWAY!

figbo · 31 May 2012, 11:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Pep04

Thank you Raf. Good seeing you're still gracing us with your wit.

Good advice. I will stay FAR FAR AWAY!

Good,now let's go fishing!!

jdc · 31 May 2012, 05:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Joey_V

Basically... yes. I make sure that my salary covers the loss in her salary but I gain a wife who is less stressed with work and less involved in this rat race.

I still only work 40h/wk.

Don't understand this at all, how do you give someone money? I would have thought that in a partnership that things were shared, I see you have only been married a short time, lots of learning to do

RolexWatcher · 31 May 2012, 05:25 PM

Just make sure you don't think earning more money is somehow a higher status/better than her working at home.

Joey_V · 31 May 2012, 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by jdc

Don't understand this at all, how do you give someone money? I would have thought that in a partnership that things were shared, I see you have only been married a short time, lots of learning to do

No no no... we share. We have a common financial salary goal per year and we can hit it with her working less. So I'm not paying anyone anything.. lol!

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Originally Posted by RolexWatcher

Just make sure you don't think earning more money is somehow a higher status/better than her working at home.

It's been the reverse for over 4 years now, it's time for me to pick up the slack.

GradyPhilpott · 1 June 2012, 12:42 AM

There is only one way to find out what a person thinks, unless that person has volunteered the information: Ask.

You've been married to your wife for a year and a half. You asked her to marry you, so you apparently know her well enough to know how to tactfully ask a question.

You also know how much she likes her career and whether the stress is taking a toll or if she has other interests that she longs to pursue, but doesn't have the time.

It's impossible to generalize and you have all the pertinent information that one could use to determine her wishes in this regard.

You might ask yourself some questions. If you know she's happy in her work, why should she cut her hours?

If she's not happy in her work and your family has sufficient income, why wouldn't she want to cut her hours?

In either situation, what is you agenda? You have one, even if you haven't told us or admitted it to yourself.

If you're satisfied that your motivation is honorable and you feel there is adequate justification, just find a good time to bring it up and ask.

kcmo · 1 June 2012, 12:53 AM

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Originally Posted by GradyPhilpott

There is only one way to find out what a person thinks, unless that person has volunteered the information: Ask.

You've been married to your wife for a year and a half. You asked her to marry you, so you apparently know her well enough to know how to tactfully ask a question.

You also know how much she likes her career and whether the stress is taking a toll or if she has other interests that she longs to pursue, but doesn't have the time.

It's impossible to generalize and you have all the pertinent information that one could use to determine her wishes in this regard.

You might ask yourself some questions. If you know she's happy in her work, why should she cut her hours?

If she's not happy in her work and your family has sufficient income, why wouldn't she want to cut her hours?

In either situation, what is you agenda? You have one, even if you haven't told us or admitted it to yourself.

If you're satisfied that your motivation is honorable and you feel there is adequate justification, just find a good time to bring it up and ask.

I'm with Grady!

dolphins · 1 June 2012, 01:09 AM

My husband asked me to go part-time prior to marriage, lol. Life is good. But we do need a maid, because cleaning is our least favorite thing to do.

david_ord · 1 June 2012, 08:22 AM

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Originally Posted by jdc

Don't understand this at all, how do you give someone money? I would have thought that in a partnership that things were shared, I see you have only been married a short time, lots of learning to do

I don't think he means giving her money. What I got from that is, make sure your salary increases by about the same as the loss of her salary, so that the net effect on the combined income, after your wife takes the half day job, is zero.

Rbdport · 1 June 2012, 10:03 AM

I never asked my husband about going part time. I told him I was going to, because (1) I wanted to and (2) because we needed a consistent day for things to occur to manage our life. His response was "great! If you're happy, I'm happy!". In our 28 years of marriage, I've been self employed, management with long hours and lots of travel, staff with set hours, per diem, part time from 20-32 hours. I work what it takes to make me happy and keep our life/ manage our household. It is our choice-together.

F&Iguy · 2 June 2012, 12:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Rbdport

I never asked my husband about going part time. I told him I was going to, because (1) I wanted to and (2) because we needed a consistent day for things to occur to manage our life. His response was "great! If you're happy, I'm happy!". It is our choice-together.

very well said

I could hear my wife talking

JUSTROLEXES · 2 June 2012, 03:31 AM

It's always a good gesture only if that's what she wants...and nobody can answer that better then her.
If she like to work less or even not to work and you have the option to offer that...That is a great guesture

But first check with the Boss

Joey_V · 2 June 2012, 04:29 PM

Boss approves! Thanks all for your perspectives!

Jonathan007 · 2 June 2012, 11:08 PM

I'm kind of old school where the guy is the provider, although I also respect my wife's decision to want to work (she is a teacher).

I would love to be able to give her the opportunity to allow her to go part time as I know she wouldn't function properly completely work free.

nauticajoe · 4 June 2012, 08:34 AM

My love would jump on it in a heartbeat. Unfortunately, her position dictates a FT position. So, it's all or nothing.

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GradyPhilpott 2024 ROLEX DATEJUST41 Pledge Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: New Mexico Watch: 116710 BLNR Posts: 34,358	There is only one way to find out what a person thinks, unless that person has volunteered the information: Ask. You've been married to your wife for a year and a half. You asked her to marry you, so you apparently know her well enough to know how to tactfully ask a question. You also know how much she likes her career and whether the stress is taking a toll or if she has other interests that she longs to pursue, but doesn't have the time. It's impossible to generalize and you have all the pertinent information that one could use to determine her wishes in this regard. You might ask yourself some questions. If you know she's happy in her work, why should she cut her hours? If she's not happy in her work and your family has sufficient income, why wouldn't she want to cut her hours? In either situation, what is you agenda? You have one, even if you haven't told us or admitted it to yourself. If you're satisfied that your motivation is honorable and you feel there is adequate justification, just find a good time to bring it up and ask. __________________ JJ Inaugural TRF $50 Watch Challenge Winner

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