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Swanngrinder · 14 October 2016, 03:24 AM

I just got a text from my gf where she told me she thinks she had a mild stroke. She was on the train to work, started to have trouble breathing, had to sit, and lost her vision for 40-50 seconds.

She said she is fine now and that she emailed here OBGYN doctor, because she often feels strange the day after starting her active pill. That is the extent of what she has done.

I think we need to go to at the bare minimum a physician to have an exam of some sort and possibly an MRI or whatever kind of test you do when something like this happens. And in my opinion it needs to happen immediately. Right? This is brain/nervous system type shit we are probably talking about.

Am I over reacting? Losing vision for a minute seems like a big deal. She is ignoring my calls and texts trying to get her to explain more to me. Just like she ignores her health, she is now ignoring me being worried about her health. I basically have been begging her to get a physical for months now.

Should I go over to her office and just sit there until she leaves with me? I can't tell what is over reacting in this circumstance. I am on the phone right now with everyone I can think of, no one really knows what to tell me to do.

I am trapped here guys. Trapped to the point where posting on here asking for advice is one of the few things I can think of to do, cause I figure there are some smart folks on here, maybe even some doctors?

Angrypuppy · 14 October 2016, 03:25 AM

Get her to the damn ER. Pronto.

Swanngrinder · 14 October 2016, 03:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Angrypuppy

Get her to the damn ER. Pronto.

She is literally ignoring me. I am basically a block away from her office (in mine). I can't physically drag her out of there...well I can but I don't think that would work.

This is insane. Should I just go over there and sit there until it is so awkward she has to come?

Abdullah71601 · 14 October 2016, 03:37 AM

Get her to a doctor.

https://www.goredforwomen.org/about-...s-of-a-stroke/

RichM · 14 October 2016, 03:43 AM

If it's as bad as you think it is, call an ambulance, and meet them there. Could just save her life.

Etschell · 14 October 2016, 03:43 AM

call 911 and she will be forced to go.

mjclark32 · 14 October 2016, 03:44 AM

I'd bring her to the Dr ASAP

Maybe go speak with her boss before causing a scene. More often than not the boss will look out for the well being of the employee.

sea-dweller · 14 October 2016, 03:55 AM

Call 911 and have an ambulance take her to the ER. They will probably do a CT Scan and MRI.

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Wingman244 · 14 October 2016, 04:00 AM

Had a friend's wife have a stroke that went undiscovered due to malpractice for 2 days. Ended up with a second much worse stroke. So much worse of an outcome than if they were able to treat it immediately. Get to the ER ASAP.

rodo · 14 October 2016, 04:01 AM

strokes are no joke, my grandma had one when I was at my grandparents' house. She told my grandpa to not call the ambulance, and she was adamant on that. I called anyways. Turned out she had a stroke and time was of the essence (ie: act quick, don't wait)

Watchflair · 14 October 2016, 04:01 AM

She needs to get looked at by a medical professional asap. This isn't something she should take lightly. Go and do whatever you need to. Hope everything goes well.

dysondiver · 14 October 2016, 04:02 AM

too serious for a forum ,,, 911 and i dont mean the porche

GradyPhilpott · 14 October 2016, 04:09 AM

I can't imagine that if she actually contacted a physician of any specialty that that person would not demand that she get medical care ASAP.

Make a personal visit to assess her condition to the best of your ability and then proceed as necessary.

I don't think even paramedical staff could cart her off to the hospital without her approval if she is currently asymptomatic.

Nonetheless, if she's a block away, go check on her.

locutus49 · 14 October 2016, 04:09 AM

Doctor ASAP. It may be a bad migraine, which has similar symptoms. I have had them and first thought I had a stroke. Only a doctor can tell.

sahcivan · 14 October 2016, 04:12 AM

Hope it's all ok mate, always best to see a doctor

swils8610 · 14 October 2016, 04:14 AM

Get it an ER now. Call 911 if she won't go with you.

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Rolex addict · 14 October 2016, 04:22 AM

Minutes matter when it comes to a stroke. My grandma had one that left her paralyzed, unable to talk, or feed herself. This isn't something to be taken lightly at all.

cda555 · 14 October 2016, 04:25 AM

Both of my paternal grandparents had fatal strokes at the age of 55. My maternal grandmother had a fatal stroke at the age of 59. I am so ultra paranoid about myself. If I passed out and lost my vision, I would be at the ER ASAP.

rr-nyc · 14 October 2016, 04:36 AM

Get her to an ER now. It's better to be safe than sorry.
I hope she is okay

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daveathall · 14 October 2016, 04:47 AM

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Originally Posted by rr-nyc

Get her to an ER now. It's better to be safe than sorry.
I hope she is okay

This.

DocThor · 14 October 2016, 04:49 AM

My Dad had such a "mild stroke" November 2006 and never went to the Doc. He died February 2007 due to a serious stroke at the age of 57...if however possible make her see the Doc.
No fear is it worth to die!

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Swanngrinder · 14 October 2016, 04:52 AM

So best I can do is we are talking to each other on the phone in 15 minutes, because she is in a meeting currently. The irony of me not being able to work (I am an AE at a tech security firm, I can't exactly perform under duress), and her unwillingness to acknowledge this potentially serious health problem now has me resenting her and worried about her.

I talked to my boss and we agreed I can't just go over there and kick the door down demanding she leaves; it would be bad news all around for her job as well as the relationship (I don't care, that can be fixed later, but it is an argument against), and I can't force a conscious person to do anything against their own will anyway.

My mom, of all people (she is a psychologist which ads to the objectivity) said women have a tendency to do this. Basically she is so scared of having a health issue it is better in her subconscious mind to just ignore the fact something is wrong than to deal with it. On the flip side she is super health conscious and watches what I eat, how I sleep, how I piss, poop, what have you, like a freaking hawk.

Sorry, I am not exactly composed right now. Need to keep it together for when we talk in ten minutes. I am not sure about ER but I am going to insist we go to at least a physician who can refer her to a specialist.

Also she was planning to go to a symphony tonight, I am going to guess that is a bad idea (loud noises, rapid light changes)

I am no dr, but this seems more like a small seizure than a stroke right? Strokes run in her family though.

She also only has one kidney. Not sure how that plays into this.

Thanks for the support guys.

brandrea · 14 October 2016, 05:00 AM

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Originally Posted by rr-nyc

Get her to an ER now. It's better to be safe than sorry.
I hope she is okay

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Exactly this.

azguy · 14 October 2016, 05:36 AM

I'll be the contrarian, it could have been just a drop in blood sugar, a small panic attack, etc. It may never happen again, but I'd still see a doctor today.

cop414 · 14 October 2016, 05:39 AM

I'd get her to a doctor, now. When Holly had her heart attack she wanted to go upstairs to lay down. I told her that she was going to the ED if I had to physically force her. I made her chew two aspirin and got her in the car. She had suffered a heart attack, had open heard surgery the next week.
GET HER TO A HOSPITAL NOW.
Hopefully it will be nothing but if it's not time is of the essence. Good luck.

TheBluePrince · 14 October 2016, 05:44 AM

Agree with all of above.

My Father had a stroke a year ago. He did not get to medics in time and spent the last year recovering.

My Grandmother had a stroke this week, on Monday with same level of symptons as my Father. She was at a specialist unit within an hour, given the latest IV TPA and had made a near full recovery within a DAY.

The latest IV TPA drugs are simply incredible. But they must be administered (if appropriate for the type of stroke of course) ASAP.

Hope your gf is OK, please get her to medics.

Juantxo · 14 October 2016, 05:46 AM

Very sorry and concerned to hear the news. I hope there is nothing serious with your girl friend, and in any case wish her a rapid recovery.

rr-nyc · 14 October 2016, 05:51 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Swanngrinder

So best I can do is we are talking to each other on the phone in 15 minutes, because she is in a meeting currently. The irony of me not being able to work (I am an AE at a tech security firm, I can't exactly perform under duress), and her unwillingness to acknowledge this potentially serious health problem now has me resenting her and worried about her.

I talked to my boss and we agreed I can't just go over there and kick the door down demanding she leaves; it would be bad news all around for her job as well as the relationship (I don't care, that can be fixed later, but it is an argument against), and I can't force a conscious person to do anything against their own will anyway.

My mom, of all people (she is a psychologist which ads to the objectivity) said women have a tendency to do this. Basically she is so scared of having a health issue it is better in her subconscious mind to just ignore the fact something is wrong than to deal with it. On the flip side she is super health conscious and watches what I eat, how I sleep, how I piss, poop, what have you, like a freaking hawk.

Sorry, I am not exactly composed right now. Need to keep it together for when we talk in ten minutes. I am not sure about ER but I am going to insist we go to at least a physician who can refer her to a specialist.

Also she was planning to go to a symphony tonight, I am going to guess that is a bad idea (loud noises, rapid light changes)

I am no dr, but this seems more like a small seizure than a stroke right? Strokes run in her family though.

She also only has one kidney. Not sure how that plays into this.

Thanks for the support guys.

Im actually quite surprised how laid back you guys are. While it may be an anxiety attack or a host of other non life threatening event, time is critical when you're talking about a stroke (or any potentially fatal vascular/neurovascular issue.

Waiting for your primary care to refer you to a specialist is nonsensical. You want to confirm or rule out a stroke first. The quickest way to do that is in the emergency department

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cop414 · 14 October 2016, 05:53 AM

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Originally Posted by rr-nyc

Im actually quite surprised how laid back you guys are. Time is critical when you're talking about a stroke (or any potential fatal vascular/neurovascular issue.

Waiting for your primary care to refer you to a specialist is nonsensical. You want to confirm or rule out a stroke first. They quickest way to do that is in the emergency department

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Agree 110%. I'd get my ass to her office and make a scene if that's what it takes. This isn't the flu, she needs to get to the hospital. You guys are dancing around what might very well be a life or death event.

locutus49 · 14 October 2016, 06:29 AM

She is an adult and has rights just like anyone else. If she is mentally stable you cannot override her rights even if it is in her best interest. Many people make poor personal decisions that have tragic effects, but it is their right to do so.

If you cannot persuade her, then you need to respect her liberty. IMO.

14 October 2016, 03:24 AM	#1
Swanngrinder "TRF" Member Join Date: Dec 2014 Location: Bay Area Watch: Explorer II Polar Posts: 25	GF Just Had a Stroke Possibly I just got a text from my gf where she told me she thinks she had a mild stroke. She was on the train to work, started to have trouble breathing, had to sit, and lost her vision for 40-50 seconds. She said she is fine now and that she emailed here OBGYN doctor, because she often feels strange the day after starting her active pill. That is the extent of what she has done. I think we need to go to at the bare minimum a physician to have an exam of some sort and possibly an MRI or whatever kind of test you do when something like this happens. And in my opinion it needs to happen immediately. Right? This is brain/nervous system type shit we are probably talking about. Am I over reacting? Losing vision for a minute seems like a big deal. She is ignoring my calls and texts trying to get her to explain more to me. Just like she ignores her health, she is now ignoring me being worried about her health. I basically have been begging her to get a physical for months now. Should I go over to her office and just sit there until she leaves with me? I can't tell what is over reacting in this circumstance. I am on the phone right now with everyone I can think of, no one really knows what to tell me to do. I am trapped here guys. Trapped to the point where posting on here asking for advice is one of the few things I can think of to do, cause I figure there are some smart folks on here, maybe even some doctors?

14 October 2016, 03:25 AM	#2
Angrypuppy "TRF" Member Join Date: Feb 2013 Real Name: Jason Location: FL390 Posts: 2,376	Get her to the damn ER. Pronto. __________________ It's not about the watch a man wears, it's about what a man does while he's wearing the watch....Toomuchtalk

14 October 2016, 03:43 AM	#5
RichM 2024 ROLEX DATEJUST41 Pledge Member Join Date: Mar 2015 Real Name: Richie Location: "Nowhere Man" Watch: out now,take care! Posts: 28,370	If it's as bad as you think it is, call an ambulance, and meet them there. Could just save her life. __________________ "I love to work at nothing all day" TRF #139960

14 October 2016, 03:43 AM	#6
Etschell "TRF" Member Join Date: Dec 2013 Location: FL Watch: platinum sub Posts: 15,884	call 911 and she will be forced to go. __________________ If you wind it, they will run. 25 or 6 to 4.

14 October 2016, 03:44 AM	#7
mjclark32 "TRF" Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Real Name: MJC Location: PHL USA Watch: IWC, Rolex, AP Posts: 29,232	I'd bring her to the Dr ASAP Maybe go speak with her boss before causing a scene. More often than not the boss will look out for the well being of the employee. __________________

14 October 2016, 03:37 AM	#4
Abdullah71601 Banned Join Date: Aug 2014 Location: Calumet Harbor Watch: ing da Bears Posts: 13,568	Get her to a doctor. https://www.goredforwomen.org/about-...s-of-a-stroke/

14 October 2016, 03:55 AM	#8
sea-dweller "TRF" Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Real Name: Dennis Location: Bay Area - 925 Posts: 40,018	Call 911 and have an ambulance take her to the ER. They will probably do a CT Scan and MRI. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk __________________ TRF Member #6699 (since September 2007)

14 October 2016, 04:00 AM	#9
Wingman244 "TRF" Member Join Date: Aug 2014 Location: Pacific NW, USA Watch: 116500LN Posts: 613	Had a friend's wife have a stroke that went undiscovered due to malpractice for 2 days. Ended up with a second much worse stroke. So much worse of an outcome than if they were able to treat it immediately. Get to the ER ASAP.

14 October 2016, 04:01 AM	#10
rodo "TRF" Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Toronto Posts: 640	strokes are no joke, my grandma had one when I was at my grandparents' house. She told my grandpa to not call the ambulance, and she was adamant on that. I called anyways. Turned out she had a stroke and time was of the essence (ie: act quick, don't wait)

14 October 2016, 04:01 AM	#11
Watchflair 2024 ROLEX DATEJUST41 Pledge Member Join Date: May 2012 Real Name: Jim Location: Westchester NY Watch: 116500 116518LN Posts: 5,879	She needs to get looked at by a medical professional asap. This isn't something she should take lightly. Go and do whatever you need to. Hope everything goes well. __________________ Remember what matters. Value everyday

14 October 2016, 04:02 AM	#12
dysondiver "TRF" Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Real Name: tom Location: northern ireland Watch: my fins Posts: 10,063	too serious for a forum ,,, 911 and i dont mean the porche

14 October 2016, 04:09 AM	#13
GradyPhilpott 2024 ROLEX DATEJUST41 Pledge Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: New Mexico Watch: 116710 BLNR Posts: 34,351	I can't imagine that if she actually contacted a physician of any specialty that that person would not demand that she get medical care ASAP. Make a personal visit to assess her condition to the best of your ability and then proceed as necessary. I don't think even paramedical staff could cart her off to the hospital without her approval if she is currently asymptomatic. Nonetheless, if she's a block away, go check on her. __________________ JJ Inaugural TRF $50 Watch Challenge Winner

14 October 2016, 04:09 AM	#14
locutus49 Banned Join Date: May 2014 Real Name: John Location: La Jolla, CA Watch: Platona Posts: 12,194	Doctor ASAP. It may be a bad migraine, which has similar symptoms. I have had them and first thought I had a stroke. Only a doctor can tell.

14 October 2016, 04:12 AM	#15
sahcivan Banned Join Date: Jan 2016 Location: UK Watch: ing you watch me Posts: 636	Hope it's all ok mate, always best to see a doctor

14 October 2016, 04:14 AM	#16
swils8610 2024 ROLEX DATEJUST41 Pledge Member Join Date: Sep 2012 Real Name: shannon Location: usa Posts: 8,995	Get it an ER now. Call 911 if she won't go with you. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Pro

14 October 2016, 04:22 AM	#17
Rolex addict Banned Join Date: Oct 2014 Real Name: The Enabler Location: South Cackalacky Watch: me crash my bike Posts: 5,564	Minutes matter when it comes to a stroke. My grandma had one that left her paralyzed, unable to talk, or feed herself. This isn't something to be taken lightly at all.

14 October 2016, 04:25 AM	#18
cda555 "TRF" Member Join Date: May 2016 Location: USA Watch: GMT IIc and PO Posts: 1,638	Both of my paternal grandparents had fatal strokes at the age of 55. My maternal grandmother had a fatal stroke at the age of 59. I am so ultra paranoid about myself. If I passed out and lost my vision, I would be at the ER ASAP.

14 October 2016, 04:36 AM	#19
rr-nyc Liar & Ratbag Join Date: Nov 2009 Real Name: Renato Location: NYC / Miami Beach Watch: Rolex Daytona Posts: 5,344	Get her to an ER now. It's better to be safe than sorry. I hope she is okay Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

14 October 2016, 04:49 AM	#21
DocThor "TRF" Member Join Date: Oct 2016 Location: DE Posts: 1	My Dad had such a "mild stroke" November 2006 and never went to the Doc. He died February 2007 due to a serious stroke at the age of 57...if however possible make her see the Doc. No fear is it worth to die! Sent from my wooden drums via Tupperware

14 October 2016, 04:52 AM	#22
Swanngrinder "TRF" Member Join Date: Dec 2014 Location: Bay Area Watch: Explorer II Polar Posts: 25	So best I can do is we are talking to each other on the phone in 15 minutes, because she is in a meeting currently. The irony of me not being able to work (I am an AE at a tech security firm, I can't exactly perform under duress), and her unwillingness to acknowledge this potentially serious health problem now has me resenting her and worried about her. I talked to my boss and we agreed I can't just go over there and kick the door down demanding she leaves; it would be bad news all around for her job as well as the relationship (I don't care, that can be fixed later, but it is an argument against), and I can't force a conscious person to do anything against their own will anyway. My mom, of all people (she is a psychologist which ads to the objectivity) said women have a tendency to do this. Basically she is so scared of having a health issue it is better in her subconscious mind to just ignore the fact something is wrong than to deal with it. On the flip side she is super health conscious and watches what I eat, how I sleep, how I piss, poop, what have you, like a freaking hawk. Sorry, I am not exactly composed right now. Need to keep it together for when we talk in ten minutes. I am not sure about ER but I am going to insist we go to at least a physician who can refer her to a specialist. Also she was planning to go to a symphony tonight, I am going to guess that is a bad idea (loud noises, rapid light changes) I am no dr, but this seems more like a small seizure than a stroke right? Strokes run in her family though. She also only has one kidney. Not sure how that plays into this. Thanks for the support guys.

14 October 2016, 05:36 AM	#24
azguy Banned Join Date: Sep 2011 Real Name: ------- Location: ------- Watch: --------- Posts: 12,609	I'll be the contrarian, it could have been just a drop in blood sugar, a small panic attack, etc. It may never happen again, but I'd still see a doctor today.

14 October 2016, 05:39 AM	#25
cop414 TRF Moderator & 2024 DATE-JUST41 Patron Join Date: Apr 2012 Real Name: Tim Location: Pennsylvania Watch: 14060M Posts: 71,841	I'd get her to a doctor, now. When Holly had her heart attack she wanted to go upstairs to lay down. I told her that she was going to the ED if I had to physically force her. I made her chew two aspirin and got her in the car. She had suffered a heart attack, had open heard surgery the next week. GET HER TO A HOSPITAL NOW. Hopefully it will be nothing but if it's not time is of the essence. Good luck. __________________ Rolex Submariner 14060M Omega Seamaster 2254.50 DOXA Professional 1200T Card carrying member of TRF's Global Association of Retro-Grouch-Curmudgeons TRF's "After Dark" Bar & NightClub Patron P Club Member #17 2 FA ENABLED

14 October 2016, 05:44 AM	#26
TheBluePrince "TRF" Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: London Posts: 2,081	Agree with all of above. My Father had a stroke a year ago. He did not get to medics in time and spent the last year recovering. My Grandmother had a stroke this week, on Monday with same level of symptons as my Father. She was at a specialist unit within an hour, given the latest IV TPA and had made a near full recovery within a DAY. The latest IV TPA drugs are simply incredible. But they must be administered (if appropriate for the type of stroke of course) ASAP. Hope your gf is OK, please get her to medics.

14 October 2016, 05:46 AM	#27
Juantxo Banned Join Date: May 2016 Location: Utopia Posts: 2,101	Very sorry and concerned to hear the news. I hope there is nothing serious with your girl friend, and in any case wish her a rapid recovery.

14 October 2016, 06:29 AM	#30
locutus49 Banned Join Date: May 2014 Real Name: John Location: La Jolla, CA Watch: Platona Posts: 12,194	She is an adult and has rights just like anyone else. If she is mentally stable you cannot override her rights even if it is in her best interest. Many people make poor personal decisions that have tragic effects, but it is their right to do so. If you cannot persuade her, then you need to respect her liberty. IMO.

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