Its coming on one week since my wife died....

[gmh1013]

It still is like a nightmare i cant wake up from. Ive relived the day she died a 100 times in my mind on what i should or could have done diff. She had been sick and out of hospitals all year......diverticulitis with fever sometime.....no energy she would sleep 14-15 hours a day. On the way do a doctor apt she turned to me and said "greg, im going to die....im worried whats going to happen to you." she never ever call me greg so i was shocked....but told her lets see what the I.M. doc says.....she had bloodwork drawn went home took a long nap and then talked to her daughters......i could hear her laughing so i thought she must feel better.....brought her some gatorade and made some chicken soup. She went outside watered her plants watched the news and walked into my room where i was watching a movie and said im going to take a hot bath and called for Fox the cat to go with her. I made me some coffee and after about 30 mins i hear fox meowing to get out ....open the door a little
and said did you goto sleep....and she was sideways in the tub.... no water left I could tell by skin color she was gone.....i was so shaken it took me two mins to dial 911 I screamed at her to get up etc,,.. but it was all to late ....the ER said she had been gone to long to try and revive ....and now im almost 61 with no family except for 3 cats. The cops or somebody took all her pills and would not let her daughters see her after they started coming in. I blame myself for not checking on her like ive done 100's of times when she feels bad.....I would give everything i have just to have 5 mins more with her .....we were together almost 25 years ....married for 15 of those. Hug your wife ....you never know.
The strange thing was she said she was going to die and did 10 hours later. My cats know something is wrong ....I was playing my phone recorded voice of her and they all jump up looking for her....they seem very sad also

[Starwalker]

Dear Greg, would like to give you my deepest condolences, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I'm sure you did everything in your power and beyond. it seems like the both of you were the apple of each others eye and blessed with a life and marriage filled with laughter, loyalty and joy. I can't begin to imagine your pain.....but i hope with your knowledge of the fact that the both of you celebrated each other everyday with affection and companionship....will keep you strong. Sincerely.

[Brew]

I am so sorry for your loss. peace

[Abdullah71601]

My worst fear is finding my wife already gone, and not having the opportunity to be with her in her final moments. This is so sad. You have my deepest condolences.

[dddrees]

My worst fear is my wife going before me. Thoughts and prayers.

[subtona]

So sorry for your loss Greg. May you find comfort in those years and moments you shared together.

[TheVTCGuy]

There are no words to express how sorry I am Greg, I can’t even imagine. THe only thing I can say is you asked what you could have done to change what happened, nothing. Don’t blame yourself for your wife’s passing, it will not bring her back. You two had all those great years together, try and think of those. I don’t know whether you believe in GOD, but from what happened, my honest belief is it was just her time. It doesn’t have to make sense or be fair, but she was meant to move on to the next life that day; it sounds like she knew it. If you had checked on her 10 minutes earlier or taken her to a different Doctor or whatever else you think you should have done, I believe the same would have happened. It’s going to be painful for a while and I will pray for you, lean on your family, friends, us here on TRF, we are all here for you. Remember that some of her last words were caring about you after she passed, what an amazing woman. Honor that carring. You will get through this, and someday, I believe you two will be together again.

[TeddyS]

I’m not the emotional type but this has really struck a nerve. I am incredibly sorry for your loss. It sounds like you had a beautiful relationship and hopefully, in time this is the memory you will focus on. As another reply said, there is nothing that you could have done and it certainly isn’t your fault. Give your beautiful wife the send off that she deserves, remember her and honour her in the way you live the rest of your life. That is what she would want after all.


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[swatty]

So sorry to hear this Greg, my condolences.

[City74]

My condolences sir. I know words do little to soothe an aching soul but godspeed and prayers are with you

[superdog]

So sorry to hear.

You can’t blame yourself. You must stop that.

[crew]

I’m very sorry for your loss Greg.
I hope that, in time, your years of memories will be of comfort to you.

[RazorD]

So sorry for your loss.

[ecdc]

Soul-crushing. I can't even imagine the pain you're going through. All I can offer is that blaming yourself won't change anything. Remember the good times.

[Sarosh]

Greg, I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine this feeling will pass anytime soon. But do not be sad, be happy that you spent 25 years with the love of your life. You can’t blame yourself, I’m sure your wife would not want you to do so.

Take care and take each day as it comes. Thoughts and prayers with you.

[BBL]

Greg: Sincere Condolences in the loss of Mrs. Greg.

Please take care of yourself. It's so desperately tough in life sometimes. Grief counselling sessions are available to help with sorrow and feelings such as guilt; please ask your doctor for a referral if none are not offered to you.

TRF can be a calming corner in the crush of a day's pressures and life's sad moments with so many caring, kind, helpful folks here to listen.

Rest in peace, Mrs. Greg.

Praying for you, Greg.
DM

[Andad]

Sorry to read of your loss Greg.

A very sad day for you.

Think of the good times and make contact with your friends.

You have many right here on the Forum.

Eddie.

[beshannon]

I have no words, I am so very sorry.

[Romeojk]

Hi Greg,
So sorry for your loss. My condolences. From what you said it sounds like she got to say goodbye and was very much at peace and you don’t feel as though you got to. Well my friend the fact that she was at peace should give you some peace. I am sure you were her rock, a good husband and a good father and I am sure she wants you to find peace as well. Right now it’s time to grieve. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless.

[brandrea]

My sincere condolences Greg, I can’t begin to imagine what you’re going through.

Stay connected to people, talking helps.

[tmo8320]

May you find peace, brother.

This resonates in so many ways. Thank you for sharing your feelings.


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[rajurama]

Very sorry for your loss and only way you keep your loving wife happy in peace is by taking care of yourself by cherishing the best times you had, as her her last concern was your well being.

[antbkny]

So sorry for your loss. See if you can add some good times to the mental movies.

[Art 1]

I'm very sorry, Greg.

[rph08]

So sorry. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[Maybelline]

May she Rest In Peace.

[1st amg]

I am so sorry for your loss Greg. May you find strength within your family to help each other.

[AzPaul]

Very sorry for your loss, Greg.

[bdex75]

Greg, I don’t even know what to say other than I am sorry. I could not imagine the pain that you are going they right now. I don’t know if you are a man of faith but please continue to talk to someone, anyone thru all of this. Family, friends, pastor, anyone. If you need to talk I will DM you my cell phone number. I have never met you but when I was struggling with the loss of my mother in a very similar situation I had some people I barely knew that ended up being a great resource.

Know that there is nothing you could have done to change the outcome.



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[gettocard]

Dear Greg,my deepest condolences for your loss. I cannot even imagine what kind of pain you're going through and therefore I will spare any advice besides maybe see a therapist for a while. From your words it appears you're suffering from some sort of sense of guilt,so truste me,a therapist may help a lot.

Again,my sincere condolences to you and those close to you both.